RO Winterfest 2017 - Q&A

RO Winterfest 2017 - Q&A

What if I’m single the rest of my life?

I get this question from time to time. When we focus on what we’re afraid of never having we’re not working on obtaining that very same thing. Don’t let the “what if’s” of your life become anything more than just the hypothetical things they are. When they begin to instill fear in us and paralyze us they become more than hypothetical, they begin to make an impact in holding us back from progressing forward. Instead, focus on Christ and on the good plans he has for you. Remember, God is good, and He has a good plan for you. Aren’t you curious about His plan for you? Pursue Him and discover the adventure waiting for you. As you grow, you’ll find someone to join in that adventure with you. I know it may not “feel” like it sometimes, but the truth is that “feelings” have the IQ of zero. Don’t let those feelings make educated guesses for you, instead live out of your faith, and trust that God is good, and that He desires good for you.

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Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 6

Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 6

How do you get rid of someone after telling them multiple times you're not interested?

This situation happens often. I'm going to assume that you're a girl and the person you're trying to get rid of is a guy. If this is different, mention in the comments below that it's the other way around and I'll address it from that perspective. For some reason there is a brand guy that thinks tenacity is going to win over a girl - like you can wear

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Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 5

Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 5

How do you know if He's interested in you?

Although every guy is different, I think it's fairly obvious to know if a guy is interested in you.  Assuming that you're ready for marriage, I also think it's important to keep an eye out for a guy who's interested in the right things, things like growing in Christ, taking care of his family, etc. Sure you can watch for clear signs to see if he's interested - like if he's always wanting to chat you up, or if he's willing to come out only if you're going to be there, etc. but far, far more importantly than 

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Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 4

Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 4

How old should you be to date?

As Christians the purpose of dating (or courting in this case) should be marriage. If that's the purpose then you should date when you're ready for marriage, or just about ready. To be ready (or best prepared) for marriage I believe that a person should be over 20 years old as the last parts of your brain develop between the ages of 20-25. These parts have to do with decision making and critical thinking - important stuff for any person making life altering decisions. They should also be stable financially

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Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 3

Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 3

Yo I like this feme. But she got a man. 

By and far my favorite wording on any question so far haha. Well, assuming that you're ready for marriage I'll say that there is no direct Biblical identification on what to do in this scenario. At least none that I feel lead to. I've always been of the opinion that if a couple are happy together you should celebrate them, cheer them on and not interfere. If you were in a relationship with a girl would you want another guy to interfere? (Matthew 7:12)

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Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 2

Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 2

What do you say to couples that start talking at 16 and get married 6 years later. Wasn't it too early?

This is a tricky question because the opinions can be very subjective. But I will say this - couples who court before their ready for marriage will typically have a more difficult time than those who don't. The younger you are the less sense/ wisdom & self control you have, this is why it's necessary to have parents or guardians until each young person becomes an adult.

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Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 1

Youth Conference 2015 Q&A - Part 1

During the West Coast Youth Conference in 2015 I held a seminar on Relationships. You can view it by clicking here. After the short seminar was completed I really wanted to leave more time for Q&A, which I did through the help of Google Voice. Half way through the Q&A session my internet died on my iPad so I finished the questions I had and ended on time. After service though, I checked my cell phone to see how many more questions were asked, and to my surprise I had roughly 124 questions left unanswered. So through a few blogs, I've decided to try and give concise answers here over the next few weeks. Hope this helps.

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Youth Conference 2015 Q&A Quicklist

Youth Conference 2015 Q&A Quicklist

Q1 I wanted to ask this question but I was too late last night, I hope you can help me. My boyfriend and I got carried away one night and somewhat lost our virginity. We didn't go all the way, well no need for details but what's done is done. After that we haven't put ourselves in that situation and we fasted and regretted going that far. We are baptized and we were wanting to ask, as our next step in getting married in the next few months are we allowed to still have our blessing at our wedding or no ?

Q2 If you are not a Virgin can you still have a blessing at your marriage ?

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Begin

Begin

One of the greatest resources for ministry that someone once gave me was a simple piece of advice. “Begin” they said.

Beginning is where most people fail. Not because they began wrong, but because they failed to begin at all. As a 22 year old who was less than 3 months married, I decided to take on the lead role in youth ministry at my church. Mind you, this was a youth ministry that had been extremely successful and then dwindled in its previous 2 years.

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